How ArePeople Socialized To Handle Conflict?

The four types of people socialized to handle conflict include:Condescending Abuser, Cowardly Evader, Aggressive Attacker, and Passive Reticent.

Factors that affect how people are socialized to handle conflict include: Family, Environment, Discrimination, Status, and Self-Esteem.

A Condescending Abuser is socialized to be verbally abusive, intimidating, contemptuous, threatening, conniving, know it all, and discriminative.

• In the following two videos one will hear an example of how people who are discriminative towards others also tend to be condescending.
• They are ____________ to the other person.
  • Verbally Abusive
  • Intimidating
  • Contemptuous
  • Threatening
  • Conniving
  • Discriminative

Condescending Abuser: United States

• In the following two videos one will hear two examples of how family and status plays an important role in the way people handle conflict.
  • Status
    • Same status or lower status:all bets are off; person does not hold back
    • Higher status: more respect is shown; person holds back
  • Family
    • Treated like a child: more condescending towards others
    • Treated like an adult: treat others more respectfully

Condescending Abuser: Jamaica

• People from Jamaica tend to handle most of their conflicts in a condescending manner, unlike Americans, who tend to vary a lot. Most Jamaicans are very prideful about themselves. Jamaicans have always felt the need to let other Jamaicans know how much better they are, than the other person, when in a conflict. Jamaicans do this by making fun of the person and pointing out faults to make themselves look good. Basically, they are saying that you would never see them do this, or be that, like that person.
• Status is usually not a factor among Jamaicans. They are more likely to express there emotions without holding back for fear. The belief that respect will be shown to one if one shows respect, is prevalent in Jamaica. So age, culture, and profession is not a factor.

A Cowardly Evader is socialized to have a logical explanation for everything, evade being hit at all cost, and make up a story to get out of trouble.

Cowardly Evader Jamaica

A Aggressive Attacker is socialized to be out of control, attack, shout, SCREAM, throw things, and ignore the other person.

Aggressive Attacker: United States

• In the following video, one will hear an example of how one’s environment and self-esteem plays an important role in the way one handles conflict.
  • Environment
    • Bad neighborhood: a more aggressive nature
    • Good neighborhood: a less aggressive nature
  • Self-Esteem
    • Physical Deficiency: easily riled; one feels like they have to prove everything
    • Good Physicality: one is less likely to feel like they have to prove themselves when it comes to their physicality

Aggressive Attacker: Jamaican

• When it comes to Jamaican people, a lot of them tend to respond with extreme aggression. They become blind sided by their anger and leave no room for “sorry”.
• For example, there was this boy who told another boy to go “F%$# his mother”, instead of verbally attacking the boy or hit him, the boy went home, got a machete and sliced the other boy’s face right down the middle.
• Anything could trigger there anger because they are less likely to be open-minded about what the other person is saying, be more in control of their feelings, and also many of them feel as if they have to prove that they are tough, and dangerous, and not to be messed with so that others won’t mess with them. Why do they feel like they have to be tough, and dangerous, and not to be messed with? Because most Jamaicans live in a dangerous environment where violence is sometimes necessary in order to survive.
• Americans on the other hand, tend to be more open-minded because of the huge diversity. The law is also upheld more in America (so a slice to the head would not be a common thing in a America) and it is also less corrupt than Jamaica’s.

A Passive Reticent is socialized to respond with silence, not defend themselves (verbally or physically), and not express their feelings.

Why? Because they feel like it won’t make a difference if they say anything, they are scared, they don’t know how to handle the situation, and, or they were taught that it was considered as a form of respect, and, or intelligence.

Passive Reticent: United States

Bibliography

Oliver Volume Three. Dir. Trevor Neim. Pro. Calvin Butler. Perfs. Oliver Samuel. Jamaican Broadcasting Corporation

Oliver Volume Four. Dir. Trevor Neim. Pro. Calvin Butler. Perfs. Oliver Samuel. Jamaican Broadcasting Corporation

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